I know most OCD people feel that even numbers are the way to go, but I am Irish...and superstitious is the name of the game. So Threes... we like the Three's... It's all about the Three's...
Fine... well I just wanted to do a random post about our month... We have had a really busy month.
Again, work is picking up, I am no longer able to sit and mull and write and jot down things to write about later. I will probably require more structure if I want to keep doing the blog thing because as much as I want to keep writing in my journal, but wrists are killing at the end of writing anything with pen and paper... this KILLS me you MUST know that... Also, there are things I like to say and get out of my head and put on paper...why? Don't know, but it works... It helps, it really does.
Going day to day is how I'm trying to do it right now, which really is at odds with the planner in me. The planner in me is so strong that I even bought a two and a half year planner over the weekend. It's a Snoopy planner, don't get me wrong...one month per two pages....but still... If I don't write it down I forget. Plain and simple...
My uncle gave me a hutch, and it was my grandma's and now it's mine. It was missing some shelves, so I got glass pieces cut for the shelves, and now I have another hutch and I have space for more stuff... yay!! I got some really cute knickknacks out that I had put away... Amazing... 4 years later and we are still "settling in"... it's so awesome... We have been doing alot of that this month. Moving things around, making room, filling in spaces... So warm and lovely to have everything in it's place...and to put it there together... side by side... I've been a romantical ball of puke lately...not sure what that's about...but it's true... I am living a RAD Nora Roberts style life when it comes to that man.... I'm NOT ashamed to admit it.. Even when I have to clean up toe nail clippings.. I don't care!
I had a very particular idea in mind for the kids for Halloween and as awesome an idea as it was, I don't think we'll be able to pull it off without me sinking a little more attention into it than I want to give. I just want to go get costumes and go home... sometimes simple is just the best way! Choni is growing his hair out... he's been working on some side projects, keeping himself busy. Even though he just got a kick in the ass cause he's really into deciphering his dreams... and they almost always mean something and it's always something incredibly relevant. Unfortunately, his dream told him that nothing will come of any of his side projects...Not sure what that is supposed to mean for him, but I'm thinking that even though they can be "right" they're still wrong. He is doing his side projects just as much to keep himself busy and not feel the need to vacuum an already vacuumed carpet AGAIN... I told him not to get discouraged cause I wanted him to keep going... Maybe they'll pay off later down the road even... Anything that he has for himself that he does is a good accomplishment...and that makes ME happy for him :) Yay!
I am back to doing my nails...they grew out over night it seems and now I guess I have to take care of them, gosh oh gee...whatever will I do?! Give Choni back scratches, for one...
Our now 20 month old is doing all the things that 20 month olds do... some think she should be speaking full sentences... Nah, I'm good...she's fine. She eats everything and anything, so I'm good on the "not talking"... really...
Before we know it I wont' be buying diapers and wipes anymore and I'll $32 a month back into the budget... Before we know it... geesh...
With the fantastic weather change I have been taking my walks at lunch again... It's so refreshing to get out of the office, and even so our stuffy little cave we have been sanctioned off into... Of course, it can always be a little cooler for my walks, but I'm not about to look the gift horse in the mouth... Thank you Fall, thank you so much for showing up when you did! I thought they were going to have to start rolling me into the building! Thankfully my Vegas bff decided to get super skinny and gifted me her old pants...ALL of them... So now, I have new pants! I LOVE hand overs! And now I have an even better reason to stay the same or try to get a little MORE healthy... I LOVE all my new pants!!! And soda... I love soda... so I gotta do my walks.
I SHOULD be doing better anyways. I don't eat ALL my dinner. We are still on a budget, so budget for food too... The average person eats too much at a time anyways, so we have snacks for the kids and they eat their dinner. Daddy's average dinner feeds us all and then there's nothing left. I feed the wee one off my plate and that way I don't overstuff myself.. I use a juice glass to serve myself my dr. pepper out of a 2 liter bottle, no more individual cans for me. Sometimes I need a pick me up at work and I'll get a D.P from the machine... not always... just sometimes... so my consumption has gone down that's for sure... Nothing, short of Diabetes, will change that any time soon.
Oh, Thing 1...Another thing that has kept my brain completely terrified, and preoccupied... She needs SO much dental work... I should have been taking her to a periodontal this whole time and I didn't... and when they told me what all she needed done to her mouth I wanted to crawl into a hole and die... cause a dead me would be better for her than a half assed me...which is what I felt like. Losing teeth is one of those things that does NOT happen at different times, per kid, per case. You lose them at the same time, period. If you're neighbor's kids, and your kid's classmates are all losing teeth, you're kid should be losing them too...that's it... boom, done. So, she has teeth she didn't lose and now her adult teeth are going to come in crooked and we'll be hip deep in braces and dental work for the rest of her adolescence probably... well, I guess as long as I know that now right? yeah, right... she brushes, she flosses..she doesn't drink soda or eat candy... well, she really doesn't... and she's still doomed... awesome.
Been reading a lot of books... Can't believe how many I burned through in the past month... Seriously! I read...6 books...and that's just between here and there, imagine what I could do with TIME on my hands?? I finished a baby blanket, I want to start another and I have some Xmas gifts to get started on... I finally got a handle on the kids room and organizing that mess... YAY!!! I should get the toy net hammock thingies I ordered on Amazon in a few more days and then it's ON... ReOrganize 2013 will be happening! They need new curtains for their room, other than that their room is perfecto.
The hair is going to grow out, I decided this. I am no longer getting hair cuts, they have stopped and I am no longer going in for color. Too 'spensive. I did notice that the toner wore off, so the bleached parts were coming up yellow. I put a washout over it so it toned it down. Worked like a CHARM! So now I just have to grow this mess out. When it's a certain length, I will have some layers pulled through..but it needs to be LOOONG before that happens cause I already know what I want to do with it...it just seems like I seriously owe the people of the world that don't have rad hair... I owe them this, to grow mine out and let my awesome hair flag fly... and it is awesome... it's soft, it's thick, it's Purdy...it's wavy... it can be straight, it can be curly... anything I want it to be really... and it's not turning grey, so I'm gonna sail that ship as long as I can too...
I've been car day dreaming for the next purchase, which I don't anticipate for another three years or so...unless unfortunate events strike, then sooner... but lets NOT go there shall we? Okay? Ok... Well, I DID notice, that since I've been daydreaming, that's when the shit hit the fan on the cars... Not they're in bad shape, now they're in GREAT shape...I still just... meh... it's over now... Let's now dwell...moving on? Okay... That's all really, not much else going on... Just day to day stuff... I love that we have internet now! My honey's imagination stirs much more than it has without it...so that's GREAT! I love it... I can't wait for the holidays and cool weather and pumpkin flavored everything! I already have some days off slated to be with my litto family...The big one asked if I had any days off that matched up with HER days off...aaawww... so fuck it.. I made it happen.. no rhyme or reason, sometimes you just need a week off with your hunny bunnies... Ok, rant is over... I'm done... all is well...
Monday, September 30, 2013
Flash Sideways...
For when it's not really a Flash Back and it's certainly NOT a Flash Forward, cause then I'd be psychic... and a lotto winner.
Some things have been creeping around in the backs of brain...the corners of my mind if you will...
I was looking back at a time when we were apartment dwellers...
When we had a psycho land lady...
Mostly due to the "Hi, I'm your house, and now that you are here, I'm going to break on you muhfuckers!!" type stuff that we've had go on this summer.
Nothing we couldn't handle... just a lot of swipe-swipe-monies-gone. Fine...
When I think about what we paid on rent, and what we paid to "fix" the problem(s)... wow... I'm still in the pink... we are still better off...and that's amazing to me. Between Homeowner's insurance, mortgage, PMI all rolled up into one beautiful payment versus what we would be paying for that space in rent... we win... so far... but still. We WIN!!! hehe... I had some serious doubts, some total almost OH my GAWD meltdowns about what had we done? What had we gotten ourselves into? First it was MY fault... cause I did this...cause I was all alone...right? Not really. I have a silent silent partner... who sometimes seems like such a silent partner, you'd think he was second cousin to Harvey The Rabbit... not so...
We made the decision to jump in when the jumping was good...and we'll still come out on top in the end...but the END is so far away... and in the END it won't be US that really truly benefits, it'll be our kids... Our house is their security.. because it's what we can do for them...and in all this "Oh my gawd what did we get ourselves into?" I remembered the who-what-where-when-why it all came about...
and I got sad...
I got a little sad cause we were so happy in our simple lives... one kid... one (and then two) car payment(s).... and then there was carrying groceries up flights of stairs because Choni thought it would be best to go that route with the kid...an upstairs apartment is less likely to get broken into...fine. I see that...
If I could have kept ANY apartment, I would have wanted to keep our first. It was lovely. It was quaint and adorable, and we had fab neighbors... except of course for that ONE neighbor... you know the one...the one neighbor you have that you know their kid's names, not from KNOWING them, but from HEARING the mom SCREAM them across the apartment complex to come home for dinner and of course you know she talks on the phone on her patio at the top of her lungs so everyone can hear about her detest for her ex... awesome, right? Right.
I miss that apartment because it was the first place we lived as a couple, an engaged couple, a married couple, and an expectant couple...that apartment had so many of our firsts... SO many... and I have so little pictures of it...and I have so little tangible memory of it... but every time we pass we tell Thing 1, that's were WE started and she recognizes it...and now SHE says it... "That's it! That's our first place!" I'm going on the technicality of Thing 1 being a zygote but still knowing that was her first home...fine... then her first actual baby outside the belly home was grandma and grandpa's...
So I remember the fun and I have fond memories, but we had some hard times also.
Here's the thing, as far as our relationship goes, me n mister are pretty damned solid especially for today's world. Also there's the whole "Relationships are work". I'm not going to say that relationships are easy, or that if they're good they're easy. They're still work. Don't ever let anyone tell you different. But it's like this:
Relationships are work. They're the kind of work you do at a job that you LOVE. You eat-sleep the job, you can't wait to get there, and you are a little sad when you leave in the afternoon but you are immediately perked back up when you realize that you get to sleep, wake up and do it all over again... aaawwww....
Then there's the bad relationship...The Relation-shit. Relationshits are work at a job you fucking hate and can't wait to get fired or have the balls to quit, but you want to get fired so you can collect unemployment and if you quit, then it's your fault you have no job...and everyone pretty much wants/needs a job right? Right...so Relationshits are jobs where you are sending your resume out on your work email cause you just.don't.give.a.fuck.
...I would like to add I am DAMN proud of that analogy...between my sister and my mom and their dating woes, I have managed to work out this here analogy between relationships and relationshits and how you know which one you're in... DAMN proud of myself... and guess which one I have???
hehehe...
Anyways, where was I? Oh yeah, Flash Sideways... In remembering our past places, places of and in our past, I thought about what it must have looked like on the outside... I thought about our "times" we were having and sometimes I thought, wow, we were having a hard time, or wow, we had a down period... well, here's the thing. We WERE...but it wasn't US. What was happening was happening to US as a unit, not between the two of us. Any true unhappiness I have been apart of since I've been coupled was caused by outside forces... we were always teamed up and ready to go. So we had bummed out periods, but us, WE were good, solid. We were better than okay. But still, not bright and shiney unicorns shitting rainbows kinds of times going on...and we got through it as a unit...then I think of those times and Thing 1...and she was growing and learning during those times...she was eating on her own, she was potty training, she was speaking, thinking, learning.
Now, we have another that is speaking, thinking, learning... Not REALLY speaking, it's that "twin talk" that only we understand...but we hear it. It's there.
I say Flash Sideways because we are remembering what was going on when Thing 1 did the things that Thing 2 does... oh yeah, the apartment, apartment 2 or apartment 1? Well, if Thing 1 was born, obviously 2...oh yeah, I hated that place, the downstairs neighbors, the light in our bedroom window at night while we were TRYING to sleep, the THIS and the THAT...and then I wonder, were we EVER happy there? And then psycho's house... were we EVER happy there? And the wife part, were you unhappy with ME there? So I bring up that Mister was unhappy when we were there...and he says yeah kinda..and we talk and realize...it wasn't with eachother we had these feelings and it was all about the place and the situation not being awesome and how we DID have to try EXTRA hard to enjoy ourselves because it's NOT fun to rent someone else's house or an apartment...
Buyer's remorse? Maybe... but it comes in flashes and spurts like PTSD. (or so I imagine of course, I wouldn't really know, but it's my closest analogy)
Buying the house always trumps NOT having bought the house... I think what's happening is that so much time has passed since apartment 1 and 2 that I can look back now with fonder memories, and that's why this is so new to me. So new to think "wow, we had a good time, why did we buy a house?" but it's all relative...it's time... time passes and we sometimes forget the negative...at least I have been known to do that a time or two. I don't always WANT to remember the bad, especially if I feel like it's not going to do me any good down the road. I definitely believe in guarding yourself. that's a given in life, it's necessary to remember certain things from the past so you don't repeat.
But these flashes seem more like flash sideways to me...because when I remember these things in these places lately, Thing 2 is doing things that Thing 1 did in these past places...and I see the wee one crawl into her booster seat to eat, and I get a flash of the big one doing the same thing at the same place in a different place where we were the same family that loved eacthother the same...just in a different place... See? Sideways... Right now, it doesn't feel like I have to go BACK to remember. It feels like I just have to step to the side...
Like the eye trick, you cover one eye to see one side, and you switch eyes and you see another side. Sometimes I feel like if I cover one eye, I see here and now...and if I switch, I see then and there...
See? Sideways...
Some things have been creeping around in the backs of brain...the corners of my mind if you will...
I was looking back at a time when we were apartment dwellers...
When we had a psycho land lady...
Mostly due to the "Hi, I'm your house, and now that you are here, I'm going to break on you muhfuckers!!" type stuff that we've had go on this summer.
Nothing we couldn't handle... just a lot of swipe-swipe-monies-gone. Fine...
When I think about what we paid on rent, and what we paid to "fix" the problem(s)... wow... I'm still in the pink... we are still better off...and that's amazing to me. Between Homeowner's insurance, mortgage, PMI all rolled up into one beautiful payment versus what we would be paying for that space in rent... we win... so far... but still. We WIN!!! hehe... I had some serious doubts, some total almost OH my GAWD meltdowns about what had we done? What had we gotten ourselves into? First it was MY fault... cause I did this...cause I was all alone...right? Not really. I have a silent silent partner... who sometimes seems like such a silent partner, you'd think he was second cousin to Harvey The Rabbit... not so...
We made the decision to jump in when the jumping was good...and we'll still come out on top in the end...but the END is so far away... and in the END it won't be US that really truly benefits, it'll be our kids... Our house is their security.. because it's what we can do for them...and in all this "Oh my gawd what did we get ourselves into?" I remembered the who-what-where-when-why it all came about...
and I got sad...
I got a little sad cause we were so happy in our simple lives... one kid... one (and then two) car payment(s).... and then there was carrying groceries up flights of stairs because Choni thought it would be best to go that route with the kid...an upstairs apartment is less likely to get broken into...fine. I see that...
If I could have kept ANY apartment, I would have wanted to keep our first. It was lovely. It was quaint and adorable, and we had fab neighbors... except of course for that ONE neighbor... you know the one...the one neighbor you have that you know their kid's names, not from KNOWING them, but from HEARING the mom SCREAM them across the apartment complex to come home for dinner and of course you know she talks on the phone on her patio at the top of her lungs so everyone can hear about her detest for her ex... awesome, right? Right.
I miss that apartment because it was the first place we lived as a couple, an engaged couple, a married couple, and an expectant couple...that apartment had so many of our firsts... SO many... and I have so little pictures of it...and I have so little tangible memory of it... but every time we pass we tell Thing 1, that's were WE started and she recognizes it...and now SHE says it... "That's it! That's our first place!" I'm going on the technicality of Thing 1 being a zygote but still knowing that was her first home...fine... then her first actual baby outside the belly home was grandma and grandpa's...
So I remember the fun and I have fond memories, but we had some hard times also.
Here's the thing, as far as our relationship goes, me n mister are pretty damned solid especially for today's world. Also there's the whole "Relationships are work". I'm not going to say that relationships are easy, or that if they're good they're easy. They're still work. Don't ever let anyone tell you different. But it's like this:
Relationships are work. They're the kind of work you do at a job that you LOVE. You eat-sleep the job, you can't wait to get there, and you are a little sad when you leave in the afternoon but you are immediately perked back up when you realize that you get to sleep, wake up and do it all over again... aaawwww....
Then there's the bad relationship...The Relation-shit. Relationshits are work at a job you fucking hate and can't wait to get fired or have the balls to quit, but you want to get fired so you can collect unemployment and if you quit, then it's your fault you have no job...and everyone pretty much wants/needs a job right? Right...so Relationshits are jobs where you are sending your resume out on your work email cause you just.don't.give.a.fuck.
...I would like to add I am DAMN proud of that analogy...between my sister and my mom and their dating woes, I have managed to work out this here analogy between relationships and relationshits and how you know which one you're in... DAMN proud of myself... and guess which one I have???
hehehe...
Anyways, where was I? Oh yeah, Flash Sideways... In remembering our past places, places of and in our past, I thought about what it must have looked like on the outside... I thought about our "times" we were having and sometimes I thought, wow, we were having a hard time, or wow, we had a down period... well, here's the thing. We WERE...but it wasn't US. What was happening was happening to US as a unit, not between the two of us. Any true unhappiness I have been apart of since I've been coupled was caused by outside forces... we were always teamed up and ready to go. So we had bummed out periods, but us, WE were good, solid. We were better than okay. But still, not bright and shiney unicorns shitting rainbows kinds of times going on...and we got through it as a unit...then I think of those times and Thing 1...and she was growing and learning during those times...she was eating on her own, she was potty training, she was speaking, thinking, learning.
Now, we have another that is speaking, thinking, learning... Not REALLY speaking, it's that "twin talk" that only we understand...but we hear it. It's there.
I say Flash Sideways because we are remembering what was going on when Thing 1 did the things that Thing 2 does... oh yeah, the apartment, apartment 2 or apartment 1? Well, if Thing 1 was born, obviously 2...oh yeah, I hated that place, the downstairs neighbors, the light in our bedroom window at night while we were TRYING to sleep, the THIS and the THAT...and then I wonder, were we EVER happy there? And then psycho's house... were we EVER happy there? And the wife part, were you unhappy with ME there? So I bring up that Mister was unhappy when we were there...and he says yeah kinda..and we talk and realize...it wasn't with eachother we had these feelings and it was all about the place and the situation not being awesome and how we DID have to try EXTRA hard to enjoy ourselves because it's NOT fun to rent someone else's house or an apartment...
Buyer's remorse? Maybe... but it comes in flashes and spurts like PTSD. (or so I imagine of course, I wouldn't really know, but it's my closest analogy)
Buying the house always trumps NOT having bought the house... I think what's happening is that so much time has passed since apartment 1 and 2 that I can look back now with fonder memories, and that's why this is so new to me. So new to think "wow, we had a good time, why did we buy a house?" but it's all relative...it's time... time passes and we sometimes forget the negative...at least I have been known to do that a time or two. I don't always WANT to remember the bad, especially if I feel like it's not going to do me any good down the road. I definitely believe in guarding yourself. that's a given in life, it's necessary to remember certain things from the past so you don't repeat.
But these flashes seem more like flash sideways to me...because when I remember these things in these places lately, Thing 2 is doing things that Thing 1 did in these past places...and I see the wee one crawl into her booster seat to eat, and I get a flash of the big one doing the same thing at the same place in a different place where we were the same family that loved eacthother the same...just in a different place... See? Sideways... Right now, it doesn't feel like I have to go BACK to remember. It feels like I just have to step to the side...
Like the eye trick, you cover one eye to see one side, and you switch eyes and you see another side. Sometimes I feel like if I cover one eye, I see here and now...and if I switch, I see then and there...
See? Sideways...
...Locking Up Single Parent Summer...
I have been "off" for over a month... not gonna say sorry...just gonna say... I hate being right...
Or if you prefer another bumper sticker... I told you so, with a side of tongue sticking out and fingers in the ears...
But I digress...
Here we are, knee deep in third grade awesomeness, getting the hang of homework and awesomeness of third graders everywhere... Thing 2 wishes she was BIG... like Tom Hanks 'n shit... but alas... you are not... you are wee... you are in between 18months and 24 months in a land I like to call "They don't make clothes for you so you have to trip or be trapped". The holidays... JESUS... Already saying "The Holidays?" STFU Holidays!!!
I have NOT heard a Christmas song ANYWHERE yet...and I am enjoying that.
I actually LIKE Christmas songs...so I'm not even going to go there...
Single Parent Summer: over... done.. the book is read... closed, shelved until next year...
Gone is the paycheck that came with it and we are back on lock down.
Gone are the bustling HAWT days of frustration from sweat pouring down my burning red face, glasses falling off as I put The Things in the car for a ride to wherever, having to remember, "Let's leave before --- so we don't get stuck in the car in the heat, and lets go home AFTER dark..."
...and gone is the freedom of no homework...there is so much GROWN UP going on in the fall, winter and spring months... It'salmost overwhelming.... It's responsibility at it's finest...it's grown up. It's Mom and Dad and Kids...
...Gone are the quickie meals of Del Taco quesadillas and bean burritos and French fries.
...Gone is the excuse to get away with the aforementioned quickie meals...
And it couldn't come at a better time! It's been a particularly trying summer. There have been a lot of financial responsibilities to handle, much more than usual... the savings we saved from the tax return are GONE... the savings I have saved since the first of the year when I wrote my budget are pretty much gone too...I am saving less even cause I am RESPONSIBLE and went with the 401k...I might even just up the bitch so I can hold onto SOME of our money... BUT... I digress...
The financial setbacks we came across were due to the unexpected things that come with owning a home and having cars that are NOT new, but still, with the repairs and things needed on both, it's still less than HALF what we would have spent on car payments, insurance and registration on new vehicles... so we are still WINNING! I have a few bucks on top of last years goal...so we're good. Plus, I got to a point this year where I'm like, Fuck it. You can't take it with you. I have a savings. I was able to write checks and swipe the card when some people would be hocking furniture... so I'm not gonna complain. I'm go home and be happy...after my nervous breakdown.
Next summer, I can't wait. If The Things come along as they atleast SHOULD... it should be stellarly better than this summer... yeah, stellarly, don't look it up, it's MY word and it doesn't exist but in my head.
I am already eagerly anticipating cooking dinner for the four of us, putting daddy's in a lovely container for when he gets home from the game, rinse, repeat.
I was not able to do that this past summer. I had THAT kid...the one that takes a village to raise.. Yeah, that one. and I don't have a village... my village is too far... so we make do...so one summer, out of The Thing's lives, we cheated... and it was fun...
Next summer... no cheating... It more than likely will not be necessary and I am already looking forward to it. Meanwhile, hello FALL! I missed you! Take off your coat and stay awhile! No really, take off your damn coat cause it's effing hot outside still.
I must say it has definitely leveled off and I can't wait to put my floor fan away for the season! It's happening sooner than later. I still have a month or two before I will need to replace my furnace filter and I even had a lower SCE bill than I budgeted for according my last year's budget. Thanks for coming in under a lot of my budget, I was actually able to put a chunk of money away and still leave room for all the bills I have slated to pay with this check AND Thing 1's dental work.... SO MUCH dental work.. I feel so horrible.
My mouth is awful, my mister's mouth is AWFUL... so I had to know that our damn kids would have horribly yucky mouths... poor babes... all I can do is harp on them to brush their teeth and take them in for check ups when I'm supposed to... doesn't make it any less painful to watch... So this is basically a rant... a ramble... about how summer is over, fall is beginning with awesome weather we usually don't see until October is almost over and we scoped out a rad place that we might be able to go apple picking at before the season is over...this is very exciting to me.
We have been here 4 years, and we finally explored! I don't like to explore alone, and I don't' count Choni...so we don't' like to explore alone as it were... so we dragged Ma, my sis's and their entourages out to the middle of nowhere, a mile high...and BOOM... it was like a different state! Definitely not what people think when they think "California" but Ma's worldly beau said the sage brush was a dead giveaway... cause he's a smart dude like that and that's why we like him!
With more time at home and more time to do his extra curricular activities, I have noticed my Mister is a slightly happier Mister. I say slightly cause he was already happy and it's hard to improve on perfection :) Don't get me wrong he can be a pain in the ass sometimes...but it's one of those things where it doesn't bug me cause I would miss it in a heart beat if I didn't have it anymore...aawwww....
I think that wraps it up...
Or if you prefer another bumper sticker... I told you so, with a side of tongue sticking out and fingers in the ears...
But I digress...
Here we are, knee deep in third grade awesomeness, getting the hang of homework and awesomeness of third graders everywhere... Thing 2 wishes she was BIG... like Tom Hanks 'n shit... but alas... you are not... you are wee... you are in between 18months and 24 months in a land I like to call "They don't make clothes for you so you have to trip or be trapped". The holidays... JESUS... Already saying "The Holidays?" STFU Holidays!!!
I have NOT heard a Christmas song ANYWHERE yet...and I am enjoying that.
I actually LIKE Christmas songs...so I'm not even going to go there...
Single Parent Summer: over... done.. the book is read... closed, shelved until next year...
Gone is the paycheck that came with it and we are back on lock down.
Gone are the bustling HAWT days of frustration from sweat pouring down my burning red face, glasses falling off as I put The Things in the car for a ride to wherever, having to remember, "Let's leave before --- so we don't get stuck in the car in the heat, and lets go home AFTER dark..."
...and gone is the freedom of no homework...there is so much GROWN UP going on in the fall, winter and spring months... It's
...Gone are the quickie meals of Del Taco quesadillas and bean burritos and French fries.
...Gone is the excuse to get away with the aforementioned quickie meals...
And it couldn't come at a better time! It's been a particularly trying summer. There have been a lot of financial responsibilities to handle, much more than usual... the savings we saved from the tax return are GONE... the savings I have saved since the first of the year when I wrote my budget are pretty much gone too...I am saving less even cause I am RESPONSIBLE and went with the 401k...I might even just up the bitch so I can hold onto SOME of our money... BUT... I digress...
The financial setbacks we came across were due to the unexpected things that come with owning a home and having cars that are NOT new, but still, with the repairs and things needed on both, it's still less than HALF what we would have spent on car payments, insurance and registration on new vehicles... so we are still WINNING! I have a few bucks on top of last years goal...so we're good. Plus, I got to a point this year where I'm like, Fuck it. You can't take it with you. I have a savings. I was able to write checks and swipe the card when some people would be hocking furniture... so I'm not gonna complain. I'm go home and be happy...after my nervous breakdown.
Next summer, I can't wait. If The Things come along as they atleast SHOULD... it should be stellarly better than this summer... yeah, stellarly, don't look it up, it's MY word and it doesn't exist but in my head.
I am already eagerly anticipating cooking dinner for the four of us, putting daddy's in a lovely container for when he gets home from the game, rinse, repeat.
I was not able to do that this past summer. I had THAT kid...the one that takes a village to raise.. Yeah, that one. and I don't have a village... my village is too far... so we make do...so one summer, out of The Thing's lives, we cheated... and it was fun...
Next summer... no cheating... It more than likely will not be necessary and I am already looking forward to it. Meanwhile, hello FALL! I missed you! Take off your coat and stay awhile! No really, take off your damn coat cause it's effing hot outside still.
I must say it has definitely leveled off and I can't wait to put my floor fan away for the season! It's happening sooner than later. I still have a month or two before I will need to replace my furnace filter and I even had a lower SCE bill than I budgeted for according my last year's budget. Thanks for coming in under a lot of my budget, I was actually able to put a chunk of money away and still leave room for all the bills I have slated to pay with this check AND Thing 1's dental work.... SO MUCH dental work.. I feel so horrible.
My mouth is awful, my mister's mouth is AWFUL... so I had to know that our damn kids would have horribly yucky mouths... poor babes... all I can do is harp on them to brush their teeth and take them in for check ups when I'm supposed to... doesn't make it any less painful to watch... So this is basically a rant... a ramble... about how summer is over, fall is beginning with awesome weather we usually don't see until October is almost over and we scoped out a rad place that we might be able to go apple picking at before the season is over...this is very exciting to me.
We have been here 4 years, and we finally explored! I don't like to explore alone, and I don't' count Choni...so we don't' like to explore alone as it were... so we dragged Ma, my sis's and their entourages out to the middle of nowhere, a mile high...and BOOM... it was like a different state! Definitely not what people think when they think "California" but Ma's worldly beau said the sage brush was a dead giveaway... cause he's a smart dude like that and that's why we like him!
With more time at home and more time to do his extra curricular activities, I have noticed my Mister is a slightly happier Mister. I say slightly cause he was already happy and it's hard to improve on perfection :) Don't get me wrong he can be a pain in the ass sometimes...but it's one of those things where it doesn't bug me cause I would miss it in a heart beat if I didn't have it anymore...aawwww....
I think that wraps it up...
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